Rabu, 30 Juni 2010
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then, heck no, you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think, it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is yourself. Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? (Women who have children from a bunch of different men are no better.) Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more, nothing less. Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending… compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you… a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals… look for someone complimentary… not supplementary. Dating is fun… even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes… when a man always knows where you are, and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other women and men (just so they know)… you’ll make someone smile, another rethink her/his choices, and another woman prepare, and a man aware.
Don't settle for the one you can live with, but wait for the one you can't live without!!!!
Label: man, Oprah, relationship, woman
Sabtu, 26 September 2009
Selasa, 07 Juli 2009
Sista, kali ini sebagai postingan pertama saya di blog ini, saya ingin mengingatkan kita semua, para perempuan, bahwa kita adalah makhluk yang tangguh. Bagaimana tidak? Kita walaupun terlihat lemah dari luar, namun selalu dapat bangkit dari keterpurukan. Jangan kira karena perempuan itu mudah mengeluarkan air mata *kebanyakan dibandingkan kaum adam;)*, berarti kita lemah. Air mata itu justru salah satu hal menakjubkan yang diciptakan Tuhan untuk perempuan agar bisa menguatkan dirinya sendiri. Air mata perempuan itu melambangkan kelembutan dan kekuatan. Dengan menangis, perempuan bisa melampiaskan emosinya dengan baik, berbeda dengan laki-laki yang biasanya menggunakan kekerasan untuk melampiaskan emosinya.
Apakah kalian sudah merasa sebagai perempuan yang tangguh, sista? Saya merasa perempuan itu memang tangguh. Tapi, mengapa saya bisa menggunakan nick 'daniarwannabetough'? Alasannya karena saya selalu merasa belum puas dengan ketangguhan saya. Dengan nick itu saya terus diingatkan untuk tetap tegar, sehingga bisa menjadi tangguh^o^
Salah satu contoh nyata yang bisa kita lihat dari bentuk ketangguhan seorang wanita bisa kita lihat dari seorang ibu. Perhatikan saja bagaimana seorang ibu berjuang demi keluarganya, demi anak-anaknya. Mother is amazing! Mereka bisa melakukan apa saja demi orang yang dcintainya. Terimakasih mom for taking care of your annoying daughter..hehehehehe…
Tapi, memang ada kalanya kita, para perempuan, merasa benar-benar lemah. Ha itu wajar koq. Hanya saja, ketika saat sulit seperti itu tiba, berilah kesempatan untuk melongok kepada diri anda sebentar saja, dan anda akan menemukan ketangguhan yang mungkin tertutupi oleh masalah-masalah anda. Percayalah sista, kalau kita memang tangguh;)
Love you sists!
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